Open Relationships

As I have been mentioning I am in an open relationship. I thought I should maybe explain this a little. I am sure you know that each open relationship will have rules and ours did. Let me start from the beginning. I have always been one to cheat on the person I was with. Not to hurt my significant other but because I am addicted to being with more than one person. When I met my husband 6 1/2 years ago I also met my sexual mate in bed. Kind of like a soul mate to your soul but on a much more sexual level. Now when I go into a real relationship I try not to cheat at first. However, with my husband just a few short months after we met the subject of bringing other people into our relationship was brought up by him. I did not know what to think at first.

My first reaction was no...no, no, no. Here I am in this relationship being such a good girl for a change and he wants me to start being naughty again for him. I had conflicting emotions. ....to make a long story short I got over all that pretty quick and was off and running. (Many confessions to tell you about there.)



As I said earlier there were rules. Very important rules I might add that my husband wanted followed. I was only allowed to sleep with men while my husband watched. Then that changed to going out late at night (like sneaking out of the house but with permission) then coming back home for him to ravage my body after I just got done having hot steamy sex with ....with well whoever it was at that time. Like I said there have been many. My husbands thing was seeing me full of another man, seeing my panties full of another man...things of that nature. My husband mostly wanted me to have sex with another man while he was in the room watching the action...not touching anything...not participating...just watching. I was not allowed to fall in love, have feelings for, or in anyway care about these other men. Also, no women. He did not want to see me with another woman and he didn't want to be with another woman. He liked the aspect of other people wanting the person who he was with. He liked other people having sex with his girl. So, now you can see how perfect that was for someone like me.

Now I did not always follow the rules. Most of the time I didn't. I always tried to be honest with my husband though...tried...wasn't 100% honest all of the time. He knows now what happened and we had mad crazy sex talking about it...but at the time I tell him nothing. I also want to point out that we are not "swingers" or what-not. This is not something I do all the time. Usually I pick a guy and stick with him for a few months. For example I have been with 7 people in the last 5 years other than my husband. So I try not to sleep around to to much. *blush*

Having an open relationship is not for everyone. My husband decided that ours has ended after my last affair...*wink* These types of relationships can be hard and trying on the two people mainly involved. The key to success in this situation is separating sex from relationships. Sex is sex is sex is sex. That's all there is to it. This man or woman is coming over to ravage your body for the next few hours then going home to their lives and me to mine. If I never talk to that person again then who cares because that sex was great. Be careful in what decision you choose and be strong when temptation comes knocking at your door.